Premarital Counseling

Premarital Counseling – Planning For Forever

“An ounce of prevention is worth its weight in gold.”

Most likely, you clicked on this page because you are engaged or seriously dating someone and you may be starting to envision the rest of your life with that person. But, you’ve probably heard the horror stories of marriages that end in divorce and you are wondering how you can ensure that your marriage remains strong and happy.

Why Do Some Marriages End in Divorce?

When two people get married, they are usually head over heels in love. Engaged couples look at each other and can’t see anything but rainbows and butterflies. Even when a person acknowledges to themselves that their partner has some “less appealing” traits, they are able to spin them in a really positive light. But after a while, those “love blinders” come off, and couples begin to get annoyed and frustrated by the traits that they used to consider “not a big deal”. Then what happens is that these little annoyances build into big problems because these couples don’t know how to communicate about them effectively. They may have different communication styles, or they keep their feelings inside, which results in neither of them understanding what’s wrong or what the other wants. Then, as both parties get frustrated because the problem isn’t getting fixed, fights begin and their connection begins to weaken. As they live with tension, stress, and a sense of unhappiness, they either spend a lot of time and money to fix the problem (see: Couples Counseling) or they begin heading toward divorce.

Why PREmarital counseling?

In a marriage, it is much easier to prevent relationship problems than it is to fix them! It is much easier to secure and strengthen a relationship when both people feel generally good about each other. It is much, much harder to mend a relationship when people have had years of negative experiences and hurts with each other.

Why Does It Work?

Couples that have strong and lasting marriages are not just lucky – they are skilled! They have learned the skills necessary for communicating effectively, reaching compromises with their spouse, and managing conflicts. They also entered into the marriage with the right expectations by discussing the sensitive topics that can cause disagreements down the road. You too can learn these skills and ask the right questions NOW so that you can have a strong and lasting marriage!

The Planning For Forever Curriculum

Week 1: Communication Skills Part 1- Speaking Feelings & Active Listening
Week 2: Communication Skills Part 2 – Communicating about Love & Intimacy
Week 3: Handling Finances & Aligning Future Goals
Week 4: Expectations & The Art of Compromising
Week 5: Blending 2 Families
Week 6: Conflict Resolution Skills